Last week, I gave part one of lessons learned from my father. This is the second half.
11. Ask
lots of questions as a teacher and don’t get too worried about the
responses—just get responses. Then,
point people back to the Bible. I loved
watching my Dad teach a Bible study or Sunday School class. He patiently would endure all kinds of crazy
comments because his goal was to get the class to engage the Bible. He would always draw out so many comments
that everyone was amazed by the level of participation. Then, right at the end, Dad would always
summarize the scripture in such a way that put everyone in awe, not of his
teaching, but in awe of God and the Good News about Jesus Christ.
12. Read
and study. The life of the mind is
extremely important for the believer in Jesus Christ. My Dad taught us the importance of academic
excellence. He rewarded it. He taught us the value of good books. We saw him reading . . . a lot. We just figured that that must be a great
thing to do.
13. Be
gentle but be bold to make Jesus known.
Let people see that you genuinely care for them and for their eternal
destiny. Few people were more gentle
than my father, but he had a burden. It
was a burden that people come to know Christ.
So, he kindly but very directly tried to leave a witness for the Gospel
wherever he went. He was also gentle but
purposeful with his parents, his brother, and his sister. It was a delight of grace that Dad saw so
many of his extended family become part of God’s family.
14. Don’t
be careless. Take care of your
property. Take care of your family. Take care of God’s family. Take care of your neighbor. Dad was intentional in showing care, not just
of material things, but of relationships as well.
15. Keep
your word. Don’t make promises unless
you intend to keep them. Dad famously
was a keeper of his word. Even when
people would attempt to release him from promises made, even when others did
not hold up their end of promises, Dad was unrelenting. He would keep his word.
16. Be
scrupulously honest. Even if it means
that you lose financially, keep your good name instead of silly money. Dad was meticulous about paying all he owed,
and if there was any doubt, he would pay more just on principle of not ever being
accused of shorting someone.
17. Do
not be afraid to stand alone on principle.
One time, my father was the only “nay” vote in a church
meeting. This was quite embarrassing to
his children. Why, since all the “yays”
had been seen first, did Dad have to vote at all? It was because he wanted an important
principle to be reviewed. (And it was
reviewed to the satisfaction of all and for the blessing of the church).
18. Many
need models for living for Christ. Seek
to be such a model. Dad taught Sunday
School classes for young married couples for decades. Lots of men learned from a great model.
19. Always
be thankful. Especially in the last few
years of my Dad’s life, I noticed that along with his aging came also an
increased thanksgiving. His prayers reflected
this as did his conversations. He became
less worried. He didn’t grow as
frustrated by cultural decline or political debates. Instead, he grew more and more thankful. He saw reason for thanksgiving in everyday
interactions with restaurant workers, medical people, his church family, and
his own family.
20. God gets
all the glory. My Dad was so unassuming
that were he not taller than most of his generation, he would likely have gone
completely unnoticed in most settings.
This is as he wanted it because he really did want God to get all the
glory, weight, and significance for what He had done with my Dad’s life. Dad knew who he really was, and he knew Who
God really is. That settled any drive
for attention in my father’s heart.
In the photo above, Dad is, quite by accident, leading my son Mark and his new bride out of the reception. Everyone was waiting to ring the bells and greet the happy newlyweds, but Dad got caught exiting late and became a bit of comic relief. Now that he's with the Lord, however, this photo is precious to me, not as comedy, but as a picture of Dad's leadership of our family--humble, gentle, not taking oneself too seriously. And, quite literally, this is the last image I have of my father's leadership.
It has been two years since I laid my hand on my father and bid him to enjoy the presence of the
Lord. I am thankful for the life of one who
left such a bold imprint of faith on his family. My prayer is that, in passing
along to you some of what I learned from him, you too will live a contented,
thankful, as a "God-Centered Christian," to the glory of God.
Happy Father’s Day!
Great lessons, Scott.
ReplyDeleteI'm so grateful for the opportunity to have known your dad. Just this past Sunday, I had the opportunity to meet a couple who had been in your dad's Sunday School class.
It was a great joy to hear about his impact on their lives.
Amen Scott! Bob was a great role model for the men in his class. I consider him a spiritual uncle.
ReplyDelete#19. Always be thankful! Great reminder! It is a blessing to our children when we remain appreciative and grateful as we age.
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